Through the eyes of an MS Warrior

After returning from a holiday abroad, the dread of returning to your day to day life can be depressing to say the least. When you also have your MS giving you grief, it just adds insult to injury!

I recently went to Portugal with some of my nearest and dearest for a week away, which was a well earned break. It became apparent towards the latter part of the week, that I had picked up a lurgy of some sort and Bella was having a grumble as a result of it. I initially put this down to something I’d eaten or maybe just adjusting to the hotter climate.

I had many days on my return to the UK of having hot and cold sweats, awful vertigo and feeling nauseous. I noticed when I returned to work, I still felt incredibly weak and defeated. After seeing the GP for a once over, he advised it sounded like I had caught a virus and to take things easy. With that in mind, I cancelled my weekend plans with the hope that more rest would help me feel better.

On the Saturday morning, I then experienced difficulty in emptying my bladder and also noticed blood in my urine. Having had previous issues with this in the past which has been linked to my MS (see MS Society information on bladder issues), this was the first indication that Bella was about to throw her toys out of the pram. Off to the out of hours service at the hospital I went and after a specimen was tested, it was confirmed I had a bladder infection and I was given antibiotics to help clear it up.

The following week I also experienced pain by my wisdom tooth and noticed I had very swollen gums. After I had an emergency dental appointment, I was given another course of antibiotics to combat yet another infection.

The medication I am currently on for my MS, Gilenya, is an immunosuppressant. This means that it keeps immune cells trapped in the lymph nodes, to prevent them from reaching the brain and spinal chord. In MS, if these cells are to reach your nervous system, this is where they would then begin to attack the myelin sheath which protects your nerves. Due to the immune system being weakened by the medication, the body becomes less resistant to infections and it becomes trickier to treat infections that are picked up. In short, aside from Bella having a paddy when I get ill, my drugs do not help my recovery time either.

One virus, two infections and one incredibly suppressed immune system later, Bella gave me a relapse to add to the mix. This resulted in new and previous symptoms coming out of the woodwork. My vertigo was horrendous and my limbs were visibly shaking. I experienced numbness and heaviness in my arms and a constant headache which was sensitive to light. I didn’t have the ability to walk unaided and I spent a long time in bed with the worst fatigue I had ever encountered. I could barely string a sentence together due to brain fog and my vision was blurry and distorted.

With each flare up or relapse I experience, I learn more MS life hacks to help me combat some of the difficulties I face.

If even one of these tips can help one person, they are worth sharing!

  1. Make sure your walking aids are accessible at all times! I have 4 walking sticks that I have acquired through forgetting to pack my stick on days out. I placed these in areas such as the top of my stairs, the kitchen or bathroom to help assist me if I had a wobbly moment and needed something to cling onto.
  2. If you feel too weak to stand up in the shower and you don’t have a shower seat installed, opt for a bath instead. It can often be tempting to not bother at all when fatigue leaves you bed ridden, but keeping up with self care is really important. I also like to jazz up the bath with a bubble bar or a lush bath bomb, to give myself a bit of a pamper session and improve my mood! Put extra towels around the bath if you are afraid of slipping when getting in and out.
  3. Grab a TENS machine, if you are experiencing muscle pain. You can get these really easily online or in a pharmacy and the electric current can help ease pain.
  4. Be prepared that even when you are fatigued, you may not be able to sleep as well as you do usually. Poor sleep can be encountered in MS and I find especially if I have body
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  5. When your vision and balance are poor, consider using a chair or stool to sit on when cooking. Before I did this, I was lying on the kitchen floor preparing food which is obviously beyond ideal!
  6. Keep your medication in a place where you will remember to take it and if you are running low on medication, ask for friends or family to assist in collecting items you may need.
  7. Make notes or keep a diary of how your symptoms have progressed. I am notoriously awful at remembering to do this or having the energy to do this, but I am trying to improve! When it comes to your next neurologist appointment, it is often easy to forget how awful things felt or the time frame of what occurred. It can also help medical professionals get an idea of whether your medication is working for you.
  8. Never underestimate an adult colouring book to prevent boredom! If your vision is bad, pick one with larger images, that don’t make you feel cross eyed!
  9. REST. This is by far the most boring thing to be told when you want to feel better and get back to normal (believe me!). Apart from taking steroids to speed up your recovery, resting is the only thing that can be done to help you get over an MS episode. Listen to your body, as you’ll only end up upsetting it more if you go overboard.
  10. Give yourself a mini fun project. I decided to put together a concert scrapbook, which I could do in my own time from the comfort of my bed. Not only did it give me something to do, reminiscing lifted my mood drastically.
  11. If you don’t feel well enough to get out of the house by foot, try to get out by car with someone. Looking around 4 walls can make you feel like you are going stir crazy. My mum will usually take me out for a drive in the car through the countryside, to get me out of the house. I do find myself telling her to drive slower than normal if my vertigo is bad, but it’s good to see the outside world!
  12. Don’t dismiss symptoms and see your GP or MS nurse! When I noticed the issues with my bladder, I was reluctant to seek medical assistance and told my Mum that it could wait until the Monday. Luckily for me, Mum can be a worrier and reminded me that any infection would impact my MS and that the sooner I took medication, the better. Don’t be stubborn like me and accept sometimes you need to speak up and get help!
  13. If you’re feeling alone or down, reach out to your family or friends. It is good to have company, even if that is a friend visiting for a cup of tea, or a telephone conversation with a relative. They will often take your mind off how awful you feel and will provide some much needed TLC!
  14. Pyjamas are your new wardrobe and that is fine! I own an unhealthy amount of pjs, which are in daily circulation when I am unwell. You’re going to be spending a lot of time in bed and the more comfortable you are the better!
  15. I am still not feeling 100% over this episode, but some progress is being made for sure. As of Monday l hope to be returning to work on a ‘phased return’. This means I can return to work on a part time basis, to help me pace myself and get back into working as normal. I can also request to work from home, if I need to rest in-between my working day. If you are in a similar position, speak to your GP and your employer to see if this is a possibility. It can often be overwhelming to return to full time hours and this can be such a great help.

If you have any tips for getting over a relapse, please let me know in the comments!

I also should mention that I have some incredible friends. One of my best friend’s, Mel, is walking 100km from London to Brighton next weekend to help raise money to find a cure for MS! If you can spare any money, please dig deep and donate to her by clicking here. Every penny counts 🙂

Work it harder, make it stronger

After my most recent relapse, my walking and balance was very badly affected. I had very tingly feet and as a result gained what I called a gangster limp. My left side was very weak and I had electric shock sensations going from the back of my knee to my lower back. Part of my treatment was taking oral steroids for a course of 5 days and I was also referred for Neuro Physio at the local health centre by my MS nurse.

This is the 2nd time that I’ve had physio sessions here, so I had an idea of what I could expect. However I was a lot weaker this time and I was worried that I would be stuck with the limp as long term damage as a result my relapse.

At my first appointment, I was on my last few days of steroids, so I inevitably felt rubbish anyway. Steroids can leave you feeling really weak and fatigued; although they can help in the long run. With this I found any exercises physically very challenging and I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to do much at all.

My physiotherapist Katy, was very kind and could tell that I was struggling. Our first session together was mainly spent discussing what my relapse had caused physically and what I wanted to work on in my sessions. My main focus was for my walking to improve and for my confidence to be restored. I was worried about having falls with my weakness being the way it was. I also wanted to get back to running again, as well as for my vertigo to improve.

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She did a few strength tests to see where my weaknesses were and it became clear very quickly that my left side had been damaged by my relapse which is why I was experiencing the tingling and limping. She timed how quickly I could walk from one end of the room to the other. Even this made me feel nervous that I would trip and fall over. To start with, she gave me a sheet of gentle exercises to practise at home. The first thing she wanted me to tackle, was to improve my core strength to help with all aspects of my recovery. I did exercises such as bridging and pelvic tilts to start with.

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I wasn’t sure that there was anything that could be done for my vertigo and balance issues. I do take tablets regularly to keep my vertigo as normal as it can be, but with this relapse it had significantly worsened. She advised that there was some exercises that could train my eyes and brain to work together as again; the signals from my brain had been getting muddled and confused because of my relapse.

Katy advised me to try something called Cawthorne-Cooksey exercises. These involve things such as looking from left to right, moving your head left to right and picking things up from the floor whilst sitting down. Sounds simple right? Not when you feel like you are already on a roundabout! At first I struggled with a lot of them and they made me feel very weird, almost to the point of feeling nauseous. After time though, this improved and I would recommend giving it a go if you are experiencing similar symptoms.

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After a few sessions of gentle strengthening exercises and CC exercises, I then spent the rest of my sessions in the rehab gym. As well as Katy, I also worked with Simon a student doing work experience for physiotherapy. Just like Katy, he was encouraging and friendly and helped me so much. My first sessions at the rehab gym were mainly based on the plinth working on my core and balance exercises to make sure that I was as strong as possible. I even went back on a treadmill to see how my walking was looking. For a long time, I couldn’t go onto the treadmill without gripping onto the handrails for dear life. The treadmill wasn’t even set to a running pace, just a gentle walk but I could still feel my left side being more slanted and wonky; it was even physically visible to the physiotherapists!

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Floor work I found to be really helpful, especially the happy and sad cat! Sounds completely nuts, but I found this the easiest way for me to tune into my core and be aware of how to balance myself; something that I struggled with in the beginning of my recovery. This was also an exercise that I used a lot the first time I went to the physio sessions in 2014. I also used exercise balls and ankle weights which I only had access to use at the gym, though I do intend on buying a set of these because again; I found these so beneficial.

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The more I grew in confidence, the more challenging my exercises became. I was given what I felt was my ultimate challenge – the wobble board. Now these aren’t easy at the best of times, let alone when you are having to throw a ball to and from the physio. My body had to get used to coordination and balance all at the same time.image1For my lower limb strength, I was given Therabands which were strapped to my ankle and a support.  These are designed to test resistance – they are like a big elastic bands colour coded for different levels of resistance and used by pulling your limb away from the point they are tethered and then maintaining resistance as you move it back. I started off on yellow and eventually progressed to red and green. I had my own bands that I could use to practise with at home and these are tied to the end of my bed posts. They are quite hard to ignore before I go to bed, so I tend to use these quite frequently.

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At the end of each session I would use the exercise bike to spin out any tension in my legs on a low level and also got advice about stretching my tired tight muscles

As the weeks went by, I found that I was pushing myself harder to do the exercises for longer periods or doing more within my sessions in general. As I did my physio before work when I had returned to work again, both Katy and Simon were very aware that they did not want to tire me out as I was becoming a lot more fatigued. They were really good at knowing my limits and adapting my routine if I was feeling particularly worse one day. Many of my sessions were hard as I was also coping with work stress and this noticeably affected my recovery as they both said that I was visibly shaky and this definitely slowed me down.

Once things had settled down we went back to everything at full speed and I was happy that I was being pushed with things such as the mini assault course that we used to do. Jumping, hopping, skipping, walking on tiptoes, bounding, running and going up and down stairs; made me feel like I was making huge steps in my recovery. I was even able to go on my first run through the common for the first time in forever. This for me was massive and I am still so proud as to how far I’ve come. The physio’s even saw a difference when I was able to go onto the treadmill without holding on and I was so chuffed!

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I would highly recommend neuro physio if you are experiencing similar problems to me. I have found it to be so beneficial and I can see such an improvement in my confidence and strength which were the main areas that I wanted to work on. Contact your GP or MS nurse to see if this is available in your area 🙂

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Falling head over heels and not over your own feet..


You know that you’re going to have a great Monday when you fall over your own feet before you have even reached the office. Yes… I did just that last week! Mortified would be an understatement, but I had to laugh when I dusted myself off and carried on walking. It’s not just MSers that fall over in life. Everyone has the ability to lose balance; just us warriors more so than most!

Losing full feeling in my feet has set me back a few steps (quite literally!) and I have been feeling pretty irritated that I’m not donning my nicest heels on a night out at the moment. At least I’m not having to carry my shoes home after an evening of Beyoncé dancing!

That thought brings me nicely to a subject I’ve been contemplating writing about for a while. In the same way that everyone has the ability to fall over, we can all experience heartbreak. But does having MS or an invisible illness make this any more difficult?

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Looking for Mr Right can feel like a challenge at the best of times. Awkward first dates, first impressions and spending hours rummaging through your wardrobe for the perfect outfit. Putting your trust and feelings in someone else’s hands can be really daunting and as they say; you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince.

Now imagine this anticipation knowing that you are holding something back. I have always been a firm believer that my MS does not define me as an individual, but equally I have to accept that as much as it is an inconvenience for me; the moment I share my life with another person, they may also have to bear the brunt of Bella’s outbursts. If you are new to reading my blogs, click here to read about who Bella is.

I was in a long term relationship when I was first diagnosed, so finding out that I had this long term condition meant that my boyfriend and I both started to research how this could affect our future. There were times when I found it challenging to open up about what my future would hold for me. It pushed me further away emotionally, as I felt confused and scared. As we were in a long distance relationship, not being able to discuss my emotions face to face for fear of losing him; probably caused us both to feel more distant than we actually were. I couldn’t stop thinking about everything that may or may not happen to me that could cause us to break up. I also didn’t want to be constantly whinging about it, it’s not exactly the most cheery of topics! Luckily at the time Tom and I were together, he read up on all aspects of MS and in general was so supportive to me through some of the really tough times. Although we parted ways, we still remain friends and have no hard feelings towards each other.

I think it’s safe to say that all relationships that last and that are worth the fight; are based on chemistry and true love. Of course, feelings can change over time and life may push you into different directions to what you expect.  I do believe though that if your crush/love interest (or even friend) can’t see past your invisible illness, then they are not worth your time. Although I can preach about people not being worth having if they can’t see past your health, sometimes when your health is all you feel like you are contending with; it can definitely be a challenge. It still terrifies me opening up to someone new about having MS. I always find myself blurting out to anyone I meet that I have MS, as if I have to give them a heads up or a warning as to what they may expect hanging out with me.

If I meet someone and tell them it sounds like I am in an AA meeting ‘Hi my name’s Rachel and I have MS!. Equally acting oblivious to everything and not being open in discussing it, could be viewed as being deceitful; as if it’s a horrible secret I have to hide. The truth is yes, it can be a pain in the ass! You may have to adapt the way you do things, but you can still experience long and happy relationships with MS.

The real question is when do you tell someone? Should you tell them before you’ve even met them? Does it even matter? Maybe they should get to know me before they get to know Bella too? I always think that the moment someone sees me having a bad day with symptoms that they will do a runner. That if someone turns around and says that they are no longer interested; it must be because of my MS.

I have to remember that there is more to me than my health and maybe that person is not Mr Right or Mr Right now. I definitely experienced my fair share of heartbreaks before MS was in the picture! I just hope I would never even be attracted to someone that would leave me just because of having MS. I’d like to think I have better taste and go for nice genuine guys.

I honestly don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer in when you tell someone about your MS or invisible illness. You may want to make the person aware so that if you are having a funny moment and need to recuperate; you can be honest and not have to pretend that everything is ok. Some people may have pre conceived ideas on what your condition means and may have the complete wrong end of the stick. Setting them straight on how you cope, may make them understand better how to help you. On the other hand, you shouldn’t have to be judged before you’ve even had the chance to sell yourself.

Be confident, be yourself and warrior on. You never know, one day someone may put an R between the M and the S.

Catch me when I fall

Having found this video on a group that I am a member of for women with MS, words cannot begin to describe how much admiration I have for this brave young girl. To see someone have such a strong passion for something, where they are determined not to let the MonSter control their life is beyond fantastic. It is also so inspiring to see Kayla’s coach provide so much support and encouragement to what she does.

Just because you have a disability, this should not define whether or not you can achieve your goals and Kayla is a perfect example of this. Stephanie Millward is another athlete who does not let MS get the better of her and she is a swimmer for the Paralympic games.

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Yes both Stephanie and Kayla look like normal and healthy young women to the naked eye, but they are also fighting the unfortunately all too common battle of invisible illnesses. Despite this, they have both achieved so much and prove that nothing is impossible with the right drive and determination. They may have to adapt the way they train or even compete at different levels, but they still give absolutely everything they have into their passion. If you have the right support around you, anything is possible and you should never give up.

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Have you achieved goals you didn’t think were possible? Who inspires you? Let me know in the comments 🙂